Reframe Memo #01
Redefining Authenticity, Reframing Self-Criticism, Embracing Imperfections and more
Hey you,
Here are 5 reframes to transform your perspective:
Redefining Authenticity
Authenticity isn't about being a fixed, unchanging self. It's about aligning your actions with your evolving values and aspirations.
People will often say to you, “You've changed.” But growth is not the same as betrayal.
You're not a statue frozen in an "authentic" pose. You're a river, constantly flowing and changing, yet always true to your essence.
Action Step: Identify one aspect of yourself you've been clinging to out of a misguided sense of authenticity. How might letting it go actually make you more true to your current values and goals?
Reframing Self-Criticism
Self-criticism isn't your conscience; it's often a projection of past hurts.
This internal critic is often a collection of internalized external voices - perhaps a strict parent, a dismissive teacher, or societal expectations.
While self-reflection is valuable, constant self-criticism is paralyzing.
Action Step: For the next week, practice catching your self-critical thoughts. When you notice one, pause and ask yourself: "Would I say this to a close friend facing the same situation?" If the answer is no, challenge yourself to reframe the thought with the same compassion you'd offer that friend.
Embracing Imperfections
Imperfection isn't a flaw; it's the signature of being human.
Ever notice how people gravitate towards those who aren't afraid to be vulnerable? Your imperfections make you approachable.
In a world, bent on portraying the perfect image, Your "imperfections" might just be the very thing that sets you apart and makes you unforgettable.
Action Step: Identify one aspect of yourself you've been trying to perfect. Maybe it's your work ethic, your appearance, or a skill you're developing. Now, how can you reframe it as a unique feature rather than a flaw?
Defining Emotional Boundaries
Setting emotional boundaries isn’t about building walls; it’s about defining your space.
While others may accuse you of shutting them out, prioritizing your well-being is not conditional.
Clear limits aren't restrictive; they're the structure that supports healthy growth.
Action Step: Identify one relationship in your life that could benefit from clearer boundaries.
The Friendship Equation
Friendship isn't just about finding people; it's about becoming the right person.
It's easy to fall into the trap of thinking, "If only I could meet the right people, my social life would be sorted." But, as they say, your vibe attracts your tribe.
So, here's the kicker - it starts with you.
And hey, don't stress about the numbers game. Quality over quantity, always. One solid friendship beats a thousand Facebook likes any day of the week.
Action Step: Be the friend you wish you had. Reach out to someone you've been meaning to contact. No agenda, no "Hey, can you help me with this or that?" Just genuine interest in their life.
That's all for this memo. See you in the next one!
Stay genuine! Stay authentic!
Nik Pathran